Kaha mora Kula?

I am trying to find my place in the world. My place as a Vaishnava, my place as a husband, my place as a friend. I am searching for my family in the Vaishnava sense. My sangha, or community of individuals which encourage and challenge me to rise above my current state. I find that communities of Vaishnavas in the west tend to be unified in the sense of having a hazy commonality of belief and practice, yet rare is it to see more than casual interaction and loose philosophical or spiritual discussion.
Amongst my own peers, there are few who are willing to dive into and enjoy spiritual discussions, perform sadhana together, and encourage each other to swim deeper and express experience and taste for the truths revealed from within.
For me, it is a great challenge to be passionate about something that is generally co-mingled with so much controversy, sensitivity, misconception, or lack of genuine knowledge, experience or taste. 

Whenever I get into these conversations with people there is a huge possibility that the conversation will take a turn for the bitter and resentful and what started out for me as an opportunity to express my own internal world, experience, and passion, ends up with "Lets agree to disagree" or "I'd rather not talk about this". While I can respect anyone who chooses to say "Hey man I am not into what you're peddling" I often find myself feeling completely misunderstood. In my family, disagreement, argument, and debate are like our bread and butter, a daily affair. We enjoy the battle, we enjoy the opportunity to think on our feet and construct ideas on the spot pulling from our sastric knowledge, experiences, and guidance from mentors and Guru. The idea isn't to win but to advance the level of understanding in particular topics and enjoy the rewards of clarity and knowledge.
Many people who know me know that I am more or less relentless, its pretty hard to get me to stop once I've got you but there's one thing you should know, I genuinely feel passionate about this stuff to me it's more exciting than sports, politics, Tv, movies, music etc etc. When you sit down with me and we talk. That's who I am, I mean no offence, and I do not mean to be intrusive but I enjoy the vulnerable nature of revealing what I found in my heart and I'd like to hear what you've found in yours.
To me, that sangha I am looking for is a place where like-minded individuals want to come together, discuss their realizations, curiosity, and passion. Practice sadhana, meditation, yoga, and healing. Do Harinama Sankirtana till the late hours of the night and relish Krsna Prasad in each others company with complete openness, vulnerability and love!
Kaha mora kula? Kaha mora Vaishnava sangha?

Hari Hari Bol!

Jai Nitai